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Strategies for Managing Challenging Client Behavior

Joe Buhrmann July 15, 2025

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Throughout their careers, financial professionals will encounter a diverse array of clients who present a variety of challenges. Recognizing and understanding these clients and their challenges is crucial for effective financial planning and maintaining productive relationships.

Examples of Common Challenging Client Profiles

Let’s explore some common challenging client profiles:

  • Unrealistic expectations: Clients may expect high returns with low risk or believe financial planning can solve all their money problems quickly. When reality doesn’t match their expectations, frustration can arise.
  • Lack of communication or transparency: Some clients may withhold important financial information, avoid responding to messages, or fail to follow through on tasks, making it hard for financial professionals to create accurate and effective plans.
  • Emotional decision-making: Clients who make impulsive decisions based on fear, greed, or market news can disrupt long-term strategies. Emotional investing often leads to poor timing and inconsistent results.
  • Distrust or over-skepticism: Clients who are overly skeptical of advice or constantly second-guess recommendations may be reluctant to take action. This can stem from past experiences or a general mistrust of financial professionals.
  • Inconsistent goals or priorities: When clients frequently change their financial goals or don’t have a clear vision of what they want, it becomes difficult to build a coherent plan and may make you feel like you’re constantly “starting over.”

Recognizing these challenging client types will help you navigate complex client relationships, ultimately leading to more successful outcomes for you and your client.

Root Causes of Challenging Client Behavior

At the core of many challenging behaviors are psychological and emotional factors. Anxiety about financial security, fear of making wrong decisions, or a deep-seated need for control can manifest in various ways. Some clients may obsessively question every recommendation, while others might constantly change their goals or chase risky investments. These behaviors often stem from a place of vulnerability or insecurity about their financial future.

External influences also play a significant role in shaping client behavior. The media’s portrayal of instant wealth and unrealistic investment returns can set unreasonable expectations. Social media and financial news outlets bombard clients with information, sometimes leading to information overload or misguided notions about market trends. Additionally, past negative experiences with financial institutions or other financial professionals can create a layer of mistrust that colors all future financial interactions.

Personal circumstances and life events can further complicate matters. A recent job loss, divorce, or health scare might drive a client to make emotionally-charged decisions that deviate from their long-term financial plan. Economic uncertainties or market volatility can exacerbate these tendencies, pushing even typically level-headed clients into reactive behaviors.

Understanding these root causes is not just an academic exercise; it’s a pathway to better solutions. When you can identify the underlying factors driving challenging behaviors, you can tailor your approach more effectively. For instance, recognizing that a client’s constant questioning stems from a lack of financial literacy allows you to focus on education rather than becoming frustrated with the inquiries.

Unraveling the complexity behind challenging client behavior is a vital step in transforming difficult relationships into opportunities for growth and deeper connection. By addressing the root causes, financial professionals can not only manage challenging situations more effectively but also elevate the overall quality of their client relationships and service delivery.

Strategies for Managing Expectations and Boundaries

The importance of clear communication cannot be overstated. When clients fully understand the scope of services, the timeline for achieving goals, and the potential obstacles along the way, they’re less likely to develop unrealistic expectations or become frustrated with the process.

To set clear expectations, consider implementing the following strategies:

  1. Establish a service calendar: Create and share a detailed schedule outlining when clients can expect regular check-ins, annual reviews, and other key touchpoints. This proactive approach demonstrates your commitment to their financial well-being and helps manage their expectations for ongoing communication.
  2. Define response times: Communicate your policy on response times for emails, calls, and other inquiries. For example, you might promise to respond to all client communications within two business days. This prevents clients from feeling neglected or expecting instant responses at all hours.
  3. Use client portals: Provide access to secure online portals where clients can view their financial information, track progress towards goals, and access important documents, reducing client anxiety and the need for frequent check-ins.
  4. Create a welcome packet: Develop a comprehensive onboarding document and upload it to your client vault, which outlines your services, communication policies, and what clients can expect from the relationship.

Equally important is setting and maintaining boundaries. Clear boundaries protect both you and your clients, ensuring a professional relationship that doesn’t become overly demanding or emotionally draining. Here are some practical tips for establishing and upholding boundaries:

  1. Set office hours: Communicate your working hours and stick to them. This helps prevent clients from expecting round-the-clock availability.
  2. Define scope of services: Be explicit about what services you do and don’t provide. This prevents scope creep and helps manage client expectations.
  3. Establish a meeting structure: Create an agenda for each client meeting and stick to it. This keeps discussions focused and productive, preventing sessions from running over or veering off-topic.
  4. Learn to say no: It’s okay to decline requests that fall outside your scope of services or violate your boundaries. Offer alternatives or referrals when appropriate.
  5. Address boundary violations promptly: If a client consistently oversteps, address the issue directly and professionally. Remind them of your agreed-upon terms and the reasons behind them.

Setting expectations and boundaries is not about creating distance or being inflexible. It’s about creating a structured, professional relationship that allows you to serve your clients more effectively.

Communication Techniques for Difficult Conversations

In the world of financial planning, the ability to navigate challenging conversations with clients is as crucial as understanding market trends. Mastering effective communication techniques can transform potentially difficult interactions into productive dialogues that strengthen client relationships and lead to better financial outcomes.

One of the foundational skills in communicating with challenging clients is active listening. This involves fully concentrating on what the client is saying, understanding their message, and responding thoughtfully. By giving clients your undivided attention and demonstrating that you truly hear their concerns, you build trust and rapport. For instance, when a client expresses anxiety about market volatility, resist the urge to immediately jump to reassurances. Instead, acknowledge their feelings and ask probing questions to understand the root of their concerns.

Empathy is another powerful tool in your communication arsenal. Put yourself in your client’s shoes and try to understand their perspective, even if you disagree with it. This doesn’t mean you have to concur with everything they say, but it does mean showing that you recognize and respect their feelings. You might say something like, “I understand why you’re feeling anxious about the market downturn. It’s natural to be concerned when you see your portfolio value fluctuate.”

Reframing issues in a positive context is another valuable skill. Instead of focusing on what clients can’t control, redirect the conversation to aspects they can influence. For example, if a client becomes fixated on a recent market dip, you might say, “While we can’t control market movements, we can focus on optimizing your portfolio allocation and ensuring it aligns with your long-term goals. Let’s review your asset mix and see if any adjustments could benefit you.”

When faced with emotional situations, it’s crucial to remain calm and professional. Clients may sometimes express frustration, anger, or fear, but as a professional, your role is to be the steady hand guiding the ship through stormy waters. Take a deep breath, maintain a composed demeanor, and focus on facts rather than getting drawn into an emotional exchange.

Tools and Resources for Enhanced Client Management

Financial professionals have a wealth of tech tools at their disposal to enhance client management and improve overall service quality. By leveraging these resources effectively, you can streamline processes, improve communication, and provide clients with a more engaging and transparent experience.

One such tool is AI-powered meeting note software. These applications can capture and summarize key points from client conversations, ensuring that no important details are missed. This not only saves time but also improves the accuracy of follow-up actions and recommendations.

Client portals have become increasingly sophisticated, offering more than just a view of account balances. Modern portals provide access to comprehensive financial planning software, allowing clients to explore different scenarios and track their progress towards goals in real-time.

Account aggregation is another technological boon for both financial professionals and clients. Consolidating financial information from various sources provides a holistic view of a client’s financial situation, making it easier to identify areas for improvement and track progress over time.

Create a more dynamic, transparent, and efficient client experience by embracing these tech resources. It will not only help in managing challenging clients but also elevate the overall quality of service for all clients.

Knowing When to Make Referrals or End Client Relationships

There comes a time when even the most skilled financial professionals must recognize when to refer a client to another professional or end the relationship altogether. It’s a crucial skill that can protect both you and your client from potential harm.

It’s time to consider referring a client or ending the relationship when you experience:

  • Persistent non-compliance: If a client consistently ignores your advice or fails to follow through on agreed-upon actions, it may be time to reassess the relationship.
  • Continued unrealistic expectations: Clients who persistently demand unreasonable returns or disregard market realities despite your best efforts to educate them may be better served elsewhere.
  • Scope creep: When client demands consistently fall outside your area of expertise or agreed-upon services, it may be time to refer them to a more suitable professional.
  • Emotional drain: If interactions with a client leave you feeling consistently stressed or drained, it could be a sign that the relationship is not sustainable.

Recognizing when to refer clients or end relationships will help you maintain the integrity of your practice while ensuring clients receive the best possible care. This not only protects you but also upholds the standards of the financial planning profession as a whole.

To learn more about building trust and creating a personalized experience for your clients, read our eBook, Candid Conversations: Mastering the Art of Asking Questions, or watch our on-demand webinar, The Art of Asking Questions.

DISCLAIMER: The eMoney Advisor Blog is meant as an educational and informative resource for financial professionals and individuals alike. It is not meant to be, and should not be taken as financial, legal, tax or other professional advice. Those seeking professional advice may do so by consulting with a professional advisor. eMoney Advisor will not be liable for any actions you may take based on the content of this blog.

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About the Author

Joe serves as an Advisory Financial Planning Practice Management Consultant at eMoney Advisor. With more than three decades in the financial services industry, Joe aligns his know-how and passion to help firms of all sizes increase usage, adoption, and engagement through a modern financial planning experience. He leverages his expertise and supports internal departments across the enterprise, helping Communications, Marketing, Relationship Management, and Sales. Joe attended Illinois State University, where he received his bachelor’s degree in Applied Computer Science and his MBA.

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