Getting Clients Out of Their Heads and Into Their Hearts with Brendan Frazier
Episode Summary Brendan Frazier serves as Chief Behavioral Officer at RFG Advisory, where he leads the integration of behavioral finance… Read More
Insights and best practices for successful financial planning engagement
• Emily Koochel • August 21, 2025
Traditional economic theory assumes people make rational financial decisions based on complete information and self-interest. But when it comes to tax planning, clients rarely behave this way. This is where behavioral finance comes in, the field that examines how psychological, social, cognitive, and emotional factors influence financial decisions.
For financial professionals, understanding behavioral factors provides a crucial advantage. By recognizing that clients aren’t purely rational tax calculators but humans with complex psychological relationships to money, you can develop strategies that account for both mathematical optimization and psychological comfort.
Even the most rational clients can fall prey to cognitive biases that cloud their financial judgment. These mental shortcuts, hardwired into our brains through evolution, often lead to suboptimal financial decisions that can have significant long-term consequences.
Confirmation bias acts like a selective filter, causing clients to seek out and remember information that supports their existing tax beliefs while dismissing contradictory evidence.
Anchoring creates a powerful first impression that’s difficult to shake. When clients fixate on an initial piece of tax information, perhaps a specific deduction amount or tax rate, they struggle to adjust their thinking when circumstances change.
Loss aversion causes people to feel the pain of losses approximately twice as intensely as the pleasure of equivalent gains. This is perhaps the most influential bias in tax planning.
Overconfidence bias leads many clients to believe they understand tax laws better than they actually do. This false sense of expertise can result in costly DIY tax mistakes, missed planning opportunities, or resistance to professional advice.
Mental accounting is our tendency to treat money differently depending on its source or intended use. Clients often place tax payments in a separate mental category from other expenses, viewing them as particularly painful losses rather than as part of their overall financial system.
Understanding these cognitive biases doesn’t just explain client behavior, it provides a framework for more effective advising. By recognizing these patterns, you can develop strategies that work with, rather than against, the psychological tendencies that influence financial decision-making.
Tax planning isn’t just about numbers and regulations, it’s deeply emotional. For many clients, taxes trigger powerful feelings that can derail even the most logical financial strategies.
Fear and anxiety often manifest as avoidance behaviors. Clients may postpone tax preparation, miss filing deadlines, or overlook potential deductions simply because the process feels overwhelming. This tax-related anxiety creates a paradox—the more someone avoids dealing with taxes, the more stressful the eventual reckoning becomes.
The emotional response to tax bills is particularly revealing. Even when a client intellectually understands they’ll owe taxes, receiving the actual bill can elicit a visceral reaction. The brain processes a tax bill as a financial loss, activating the same neural pathways involved in physical pain. This emotional reaction often leads to overcorrections in withholding strategies, where clients prefer to have significantly more withheld than necessary just to avoid that feeling again.
Shame and embarrassment create another layer of emotional complexity. Clients may feel inadequate if they don’t understand tax concepts, embarrassed about past financial decisions, or ashamed of their income level. These emotions can prevent them from seeking professional guidance when they need it most.
Audit anxiety drives many clients toward overly conservative tax strategies. The fear of IRS scrutiny can prevent legitimate deductions and credits from being claimed. This anxiety-driven approach often costs clients significantly more than the actual risk warrants.
Reframing tax planning as financial empowerment rather than a burden helps address these emotional barriers. Instead of focusing on the taxes paid, highlight the control gained through proactive planning. This shift in perspective can transform tax discussions from anxiety-inducing to empowering.
The tax decisions your clients make are also heavily influenced by the invisible web of social pressures and cultural norms surrounding them.
When your client insists on structuring their withholding to receive a large refund, they’re often responding to what financial planners call “refund culture.” This phenomenon is exacerbated by tax season advertisements that constantly promote ways to “spend your refund” on everything from furniture to vacations. Social media amplifies this effect, with friends and family posting about their refund plans and creating an implicit expectation that receiving a refund is the normal, desirable outcome, even when it represents poor cash flow management.
These social influences extend beyond refund preferences. Many clients turn to friends, family members, or colleagues for tax advice before consulting professionals. A client might arrive at your office having already decided on a course of action because “it worked great for my brother-in-law” or “everyone at work does it this way.” This informal advice network is powerful precisely because it comes from trusted sources, even when those sources lack expertise in the client’s specific financial situation.
Cultural beliefs about government, fairness, and civic responsibility also play a significant role in tax behavior. In communities where government distrust runs high, clients may be more resistant to fully reporting income or more aggressive in seeking deductions. Conversely, clients from backgrounds that emphasize civic duty might feel uncomfortable with legitimate tax minimization strategies, viewing them as somehow shirking responsibility.
These cultural factors can create striking differences in how clients approach tax planning:
Recognizing these social and cultural influences allows financial planners to address the underlying motivations behind client resistance, rather than simply presenting mathematical arguments that may fall on deaf ears. The most effective tax planning acknowledges these powerful social forces while gently guiding clients toward decisions that truly serve their financial interests.
When discussing tax planning with clients, how you communicate is just as important as what you communicate. The most technically sound tax strategy will fail if clients can’t overcome their psychological barriers to implementation. Adopt these tips to guide your clients.
Influence | Approach |
Peer pressure toward refunds or aggressive deductions |
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Reliance on non-professional advice | Acknowledge their perspective, then add value by saying, “That’s one approach, but let’s look at what works best for you.” |
Cultural views of taxes | Ask open-ended questions such as, “What’s been your experience with taxes in your family or community?” |
Shame or embarrassment | Normalize their experience by stating, “Many people feel this way. You’re not alone—and it’s great you’re taking steps now.” |
Over-withholding to get a refund | Frame breaking even as “efficient cash flow management.” |
Avoiding Roth conversions | Show clients how taxes paid today are a strategic investment in tax-free income later. |
Emotional resistance to paying capital gains | Emphasize goal alignment, risk reduction, or rebalancing benefits. |
Chasing deductions to minimize tax “loss” | Focus on overall financial outcomes, not just tax liability. |
The most effective tax planning conversations connect technical strategies to deeply personal goals. By anchoring technical recommendations to emotional motivations, you can help clients overcome the psychological barriers that stand between them and optimal financial decisions.
One of the greatest challenges in tax planning is helping clients understand the abstract concept of trading current tax payments for future financial benefits. This is where technology and visual planning tools become invaluable assets for helping clients overcome their cognitive biases and emotional resistance.
Visual planning tools transform complex tax strategies into tangible, understandable concepts. For example, when discussing Roth conversions—a strategy that often triggers loss aversion due to the immediate tax cost—interactive charts can illustrate the long-term tax-free growth potential over 10, 20, or 30 years. Suddenly, the abstract notion of “paying more taxes now for benefit later” becomes concrete and compelling.
Financial planning platforms facilitate the creation of side-by-side comparisons showing clients their financial trajectory with and without certain tax strategies. This visual demonstration helps bridge the psychological gap between today’s tax “pain” and tomorrow’s financial gain.
Collaborative planning approaches further enhance client engagement and trust. Rather than simply telling clients what they should do, invite them into the planning process through interactive technology demonstrations. This collaborative approach transforms the client from passive recipient to active participant in their tax planning journey.
Technology also excels at demonstrating opportunity costs, what clients stand to lose by not implementing certain strategies. Visual representations showing the compounding effect of tax-efficient investing or the long-term impact of tax-loss harvesting make these concepts more accessible and compelling than verbal explanations alone.
Perhaps most importantly, these technological approaches empower clients through education rather than intimidation. When clients understand the “why” behind tax recommendations, they’re more likely to follow through with implementation, even when strategies require short-term financial discomfort for long-term gain.
Tax planning isn’t one-size-fits-all. Each client brings their own financial circumstances, life goals, and personal money stories to the planning table. The most effective tax strategies consider all of these factors.
Work collaboratively with your clients to get to the root of what is influencing their approach to taxes. Tax planning becomes more effective when clients actively participate in the decision-making process.
To learn more about collaborating effectively with your clients, read our eBook, A Guide to Planning Better Together.
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